An article written by my granddaughter, Bailey Ebersole:
“To start this off I want to be clear, I am not the skinniest person on the planet, nor am I heaviest, but I think we all have those days where we “feel fat.” You know those mornings when you wake up and look in the mirror and just not feel beautiful or feel just like a gross human. You have to understand that FAT IS NOT A FEELING! Whenever I say that I feel fat I know that something deeper is going on in my mind; whether it be stress or something else like jealousy. In today’s society I feel like young women, and even young men, are pressured into this box, called “this is what you have to be in order for you to be acceptable or lovable.” I am aware that hate is a very strong word, but I really do hate this box. It makes me so sad to see young ladies post to social media saying “I have to get that beach body” when they are already so beautiful the way they are! Now don’t hear what I’m not saying. I’m not saying that working out is bad or being skinny is bad. I’m saying people should be happy with themselves! I’m saying that you should be comfortable in your own skin! I’m saying that you are beautiful the way you are! Even if you have bad acne or a unibrow you should rock that like its the new trend! You should look in the mirror and be proud to be you! You should be happy with what you see because you are all you got. With all that to say, I have to iterate again that FAT IS NOT A FEELING, so when you are “feeling fat” you should look deeper because you are beating yourself up when you should be building yourself up. You are going to be amazing no matter what you look like. You are a superhero in your own way. DO NOT ever let anyone define who you are because you are the ruler of you own body! If you will stop being your own worst enemy then your life will be so much better! You will realize more of the awesomely amazing things about you that you never noticed because you were too busy criticizing yourself over the teny-tiny thing you don’t like! I don’t know how many times I will say this but YOU ARE AMAZING! You are your worst enemy and only you are holding you back from great things!
I spent most of my childhood being bullied because I was different. I wanted to play with the boys and I didn’t like fru-fru clothes that were pink and cute. I preferred jeans and an old t-shirt. I didn’t care what I looked like. But because of this I was bullied, not physically but emotionally. I was called a cow and fat. Other little girls told me that I was gross and no one liked me. It was difficult but I came out on top. I found people that liked me for who I was. My advice to anyone struggling with bullying is to find some people to surround yourself with, people who love you for you! Find people who will stand up for you when you can’t stand for yourself. Find your crowd. The most important thing is that you stay you because there is no better version!
Well that’s what I think about that, thanks for reading! I hope you will stick around!
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