Are You Struggling To Connect And Communicate With Your Partner?
Is it difficult to talk with your partner about what you want and need? Do you feel like you and your partner often misunderstand each other? Do you and your partner have frequent verbal arguments? Do one or both of you strive for control in your relationship? Perhaps your relationship issues are triggered by financial problems or jealousy. Or maybe you’ve lost touch with each other and you feel like you are not acting like yourself in your relationship. Have you and your partner lost respect for each other? Are you struggling on a daily basis to communicate? Do you wish you could feel understood and accepted by your partner, knowing he or she loves you unconditionally?
Whether you and your partner are dating, married, getting ready to marry or considering divorce, relationship struggles can take a toll on your life. Every day may be a battle for control, with one or both of you acting superior, angry, helpless, sarcastic or apologetic. You may worry throughout the day whether you and your partner will fight or if you have met unspoken expectations of each other. Or, you and your partner may rarely speak to each other in order to avoid conflict. If you are married with children, you may wonder if and how your relationship issues have affected your children. If you are dating or getting ready to marry your partner, you may be having second thoughts about spending the rest of your life together.
Losing The Spark In Relationships Is Quite Common
Every couple experiences problems in their relationship from time to time. Sometimes couples can resolve their issues themselves, but without professional counseling, underlying communication problems can quickly arise again.
There are many reasons why so many couples have trouble connecting. First, infidelity often portrayed in the media can cause couples to lose their ability to trust. Another reason couples drift apart is rooted in our cultural expectations of gender norms. Often, we are raised with the ideas that men and women should serve traditional roles. When these expectations are not met, conflict may result.
When couples have children together, another major contributing factor to conflict is allocating time for your romantic relationship. Focusing on a child’s development is very important, but couples also crave attention from each other.
Couples Therapy Can Help You And Your Partner Reconnect
In a safe and compassionate environment, you and your partner can work together in order to gain a deeper understanding of each other. During couples therapy sessions, one of our expert therapists can help both of you identify your own and each other’s strengths, emotional needs, fears and motivations. Using effective strategies and techniques, such as active listening exercises, you and your partner can learn to value your differences as well as how your collective strengths complement each other.
Many couples have trouble agreeing about how their money should be spent. In couples therapy sessions, your therapist can work with you to create a fair budget, with which both of you can feel confident as you move forward in your relationship. If one or both of you struggle with jealousy, your therapist can help you identify the sources of this emotion. Once we determine why you feel jealous under specific circumstances, you can find a solution that reasonably suits both of your needs.
If other emotions, thoughts or behaviors are driving a wedge between you and your partner, it’s likely that we have successfully worked to mitigate tension with another couple in a similar situation. Whether you and your partner are struggling to agree about religious beliefs, mutual friends or how much time you should spend with your extended families, couples therapy can provide you with tailor-made, personality-specific strategies and tools you can use as you move forward in your relationship.
One specific resource we provide is teaching couples all of the rules about how to fight fair. Disagreements are inevitable, but if your arguments remain balanced, you and your partner have the increased ability to express yourselves openly and honestly as you work toward resolution..
While it is important to avoid using the d-word when you speak to your partner, you and your spouse may have already decided on divorce. In this case, one of our expert therapists can work with both of you to mediate your divorce. If you have children, it is especially important to seek mediation because your children’s welfare is at stake. How you and your partner relate to each other is crucial in your child’s healthy development.
Since 1994, we have helped countless couples who struggled with a variety of issues. While our professional staff has a diverse set of specialties, we all have a Master’s or doctorate degree. We also all participate in continuing education, including post-graduate courses on conflict resolution and resilience in relationships, in order to provide the most up-to-date techniques during couples therapy sessions.
With our team of experienced professionals working with you and your partner, you will have the opportunity to find solutions to the problems that have negatively affected your relationship. Every relationship has hope. The tools we provide during couples therapy can transform your relationship’s hopes into reality.
My partner and are I struggling in our relationship, but I still have questions and concerns about couples therapy…
I am worried that our therapist might side with my partner.
Our skills, expertise and professionalism demonstrate that we are dedicated to helping you and your partner find solutions based on unbiased plans, strategies and techniques. Sometimes, our clients worry that their therapist will choose sides based on gender (i.e. a female therapist will side with the female partner). However, our clients who attend couples therapy sessions with an open mind immediately find that our interests are aligned with those of both you and your partner.
Do the benefits of couples therapy outweigh the cost?
You know the bond you once had or currently have with your partner is invaluable. If you have a child, you also know how valuable your family unity is for him or her.
Investing in your relationship now could save you time and money in the future. In addition to saving your family years of heartache, counseling could potentially save you and your partner thousands of dollars in divorce costs.
I am worried our friends and family will judge us for seeking couples therapy.
We are dedicated to keeping our sessions completely confidential. In fact, we’d lose our license if we did not follow privacy laws. On the off chance someone you know sees you at our office, they would not know what treatment you are seeking. Nevertheless, you should not be ashamed of your commitment to your partner – many of your friends and family members may even admire your progress.
You And Your Partner Have An Opportunity For A Loving And Respectful Relationship
If you are ready to rediscover the joy in your relationship, we invite you to call us for a complimentary 20-minute phone consultation to discuss your needs and how couples therapy can help you and your partner strengthen your connection and improve your life together.